Monday, July 1, 2013

Surro Files - We Have A New Date & A New Plan!!!!

OK, I'm officially mean.  I know I told you all that I would let you know as soon as we got the new transfer date, but it seemed to be jumping around a bit due to the doctor being on vacation.  Boo!  Are doctors even allowed to go on vacation????  Haha!  Just kidding.  It all worked out for the best though.  We were going to do a transfer around the middle of July, but the doctor was on vacation right when I would most likely end up transferring thus this cycle was a no go.  I was bummed at first, but then I realized this meant that the intended mother, Belle, and maybe the intended father, Adam, could make it to the transfer (where they could not if it was mid-July).  That alone is worth waiting the extra month!  I wouldn't want them to miss it.  I know if it were the other way around I wouldn't want to miss this day either.  I'm leaving you in the dark though.  I still haven't told you the new plan.  So.....

  • JULY 13th - I will take my last birth control pill.
  • I will get my period.  Call the clinic. (I'm going to guess July 16th)
  • Go in for ultrasound & blood work within 4 days of period. (Let's guess July 18th)
  • Start ovulation predictor kit (OPK) on cycle day 10. (Let's guess July 26th)
  • Call when I get a positive on my OPK. (Let's guess July 31st)
  • Go in for ultrasound & blood work to confirm ovulation. (Let's guess August 1st)
  • Fly out to Connecticut. (Let's guess August 3rd)
  • Go in to clinic for ultrasound & blood work. (Let's guess August 5th)
  • Transfer embryos!!! (Let's guess August 6th)
Ok, you'll probably notice that I don't really have any exact dates on here except when I take my last birth control pill.  You'll also probably notice that I'm not taking any pills or shots this time.  That's because we're doing a natural cycle this time.  Since the last cycle didn't work with the drugs, we're going to try a cycle just letting my body do what it wants to do.  Although I will be allowed to ovulate, I am still a gestational carrier.  I will only be helping this baby to grow.  The baby will not be related to me and the clinic will still be transferring a completely fertilized embryo into me.  It's really quite amazing how many ways IVF can be done!  The tricky part about a natural cycle is that the clinic cannot control anything.  All they can do is sit back, watch me, and jump when my body says go.

Belle and I are super excited!  She's already booked her plane flight and still has her bags packed from when we were supposed to have our first transfer.  I can't book my trip yet, but I wish it was tomorrow.  We're already trying to think of places to go before the transfer (Cake Boss Bakery & NYC Zoo), and things to do after the transfer (watch movies and play games) while I'm on bed rest.  So much to look forward to!!!!!  I'm sure this month will fly by and the transfer day will be here before we know it.  Yayyyyyy!

Don't forget to check out my "Surrogacy" tab at the top of this page to catch up on any posts you might have missed.

*Some of the names in this post have been changed to protect the identities of those involved in this journey.


  1. Pretty exciting! Natural cycles sound like the way to go. So jealous of you for so many reasons.

    1. Do you have an idea of when you will start cycling? Are they still working on the ED contracts? You all will get there soon... Maybe Sept?

  2. It is very weird that you bled so much when your lining was supposedly thin. It does make you wonder if they were doing something wrong though the measurement of lining seems pretty simple. I guess what you are learning here that with infertility the name of the game is frustrating delays and disappointment!

    Just one thing that bugs a lot of us infertiles. They aren't "implanting" embryos. They are transferring them. The embryos may implant on their own. In general it seems like the doctors have more control and it is more guaranteed than it is if you say implant to the general public. The news does it all the time too and it drives many in the infertility world batty.

    Best of luck!

    1. I did think it was really weird. I did have another week of taking meds though so maybe it just grew a lot in a week. A mystery I will never know the answer to. Thanks for pointing out my error. I usually use the word transfer, but I guess I missed this one. Will change it now. Thanks!


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